Background: Carlos, a 63-year-old successful entrepreneur, had been married to his wife for over 35 years. After her passing, he found himself entering a new chapter of life, with his children grown and living independently. Though financially secure and professionally successful, Carlos felt a deep sense of loneliness and was unsure how to start a new chapter in his personal life.

Carlos had never been part of the modern dating scene. Having been married for decades, he was unfamiliar with how relationships were formed in today’s world. When he learned that dating apps were the primary way people met, Carlos was shocked and resistant. As someone who was old-fashioned and traditional, Carlos felt that meaningful relationships should be built through personal connections, not the impersonal swipe culture of dating apps. He was adamant that he would never use them.

Despite his aversion to the ever-popular dating apps, Carlos knew that he wanted to find a meaningful relationship, someone he could share his life with again. He reached out to Coach Thomas, seeking guidance on how to navigate the modern dating world without using dating apps.

Challenge: Carlos’ primary challenge was learning how to meet and approach women in Every Day Life (EDL). He believed that dating should be natural, in-person, and rooted in real-life interactions, not something that could be reduced to online profiles and messages. After decades of marriage, he felt out of touch with social dynamics and lacked the confidence to approach women naturally, especially in public settings. Additionally, Carlos wanted to find a partner who shared his traditional values, which meant he needed a dating approach that aligned with his belief in authenticity and genuine connection.

Solution: After discussing Carlos’ goals and concerns, Coach Thomas recommended the 14-day Everyday Life (EDL) Program—a coaching program designed to help individuals learn to build meaningful relationships without relying on dating apps. The goal of the program was to help Carlos rediscover how to meet women in the real world, using his natural charisma and traditional values to form authentic connections.

Over the course of the program, Coach Thomas helped Carlos overcome his fears, adjust his mindset, and develop the skills necessary to meet women in organic, meaningful ways. Here’s how Coach Thomas guided Carlos:

1. Addressing the Mindset Around Dating: One of the first steps was helping Carlos adjust his mindset about dating. Coach Thomas acknowledged Carlos’ traditional values and emphasized that building genuine connections in person was highly possible. He reassured Carlos that there were plenty of women out there who shared his beliefs and that he could successfully meet them through everyday activities, without needing dating apps.
2. Building Confidence and Social Skills: Carlos had been out of the dating scene for decades, and his confidence had taken a hit after the loss of his wife. Coach Thomas worked with Carlos on building his social confidence, emphasizing that meeting women was about being authentic, approachable, and respectful. They practiced starting casual conversations and engaging in light banter, helping Carlos feel more at ease when talking to new people. Over the course of the program, Carlos’ social skills grew stronger, and he became more comfortable in situations where he could meet women naturally.
3. Finding Opportunities for In-Person Connections: Coach Thomas helped Carlos recognize the many opportunities for meeting women in his Every Day Life (EDL). They worked on identifying places and activities where Carlos could naturally encounter like-minded women who shared his values—such as local community events, social clubs, volunteer opportunities, and even the gym. Carlos was encouraged to engage in these activities with an open, welcoming attitude, focusing on building rapport and forging real connections without the pressure of rushing into a relationship.
4. Mastering the Art of In-Person Dating: Coach Thomas guided Carlos on how to approach women in a way that felt natural, respectful, and engaging. Carlos learned how to initiate conversations, ask thoughtful questions, and create connections based on mutual interests. He was also taught how to read body language, understand social cues, and ensure that his interactions were authentic and respectful. Coach Thomas emphasized that the key to successful in-person dating was to be present, confident, and kind.
5. Focusing on Long-Term Compatibility: As Carlos began meeting and dating women, Coach Thomas coached him on how to assess long-term compatibility. They discussed the importance of finding someone who shared Carlos’ values, including his love of family, his work ethic, and his traditional beliefs. Coach Thomas helped Carlos navigate the early stages of dating, ensuring that each potential partner was a good match for him both emotionally and philosophically.

Results: At the end of the 14-day EDL Program, Carlos felt like a new man. He had gained the confidence and skills to approach women in everyday settings, and was confident that he could approach dating without using dating apps. With Coach Thomas’ guidance, Carlos had learned how to organically meet women and build authentic connections without needing online platforms.

A few weeks after completing the program, Carlos met Rebecca at a local charity event, where they bonded over a shared interest in giving back to the community. Their connection was immediate, and Carlos felt a strong sense of compatibility with her. As they spent more time together, Carlos realized that Rebecca was the woman he had been searching for—a woman who shared his traditional values, love of family, and outlook on life.

Carlos and Rebecca quickly built a strong, loving relationship, and today, Carlos is happily planning a future with her. They enjoy spending quality time together, traveling, and nurturing their connection in a way that feels authentic and fulfilling. Carlos often reflects on how Coach Thomas’ guidance helped him regain his confidence and navigate the modern dating world, allowing him to find the love he had been longing for—all without the use of dating apps.

Conclusion: Through Coach Thomas’ Everyday Life (EDL) Program, Carlos, a 63-year-old widower, was able to successfully find love without relying on dating apps. By focusing on building his confidence, navigating in-person connections, and staying true to his traditional values, Carlos was able to meet Rebecca, the woman he would spend the rest of his life with. Carlos’ experience is a testament to the power of coaching and the fact that, with the right guidance, it’s possible to find meaningful love at any stage of life, without the need for technology.